The Enemy In Your Marriage

By: Jenifer Metzger

Did you know that you have an enemy in your marriage? An enemy that is not you and not your husband. Satan loves when we argue with our husbands. He loves it when the lines of communication with our husband are closed. He feeds off of those times when there is turmoil in our marriage.

Satan doesn't want to see your marriage last. He doesn't want to see you and your husband have a happy marriage. And he certainly doesn't want to see God in the center of your marriage.

A thief comes only to steal

and kill and destroy. I have

come so that they may have

life and have it in abundance.

John 10:10 CSB

Satan comes to kill your marriage.

Satan comes to steal your marriage.

Satan comes to destroy your marriage.

Period.

Not only does satan love when you and your husband are in a disagreement or are not speaking to each other, but he also uses that time to tempt you. He whispers to you things like, "I bet her husband never treats her that way," "Her husband is so attentive to her while your husband ignores you," "You'd be better off without him," and "You are your own woman, don't take that from him." He loves whispering lies into your ears to draw you away from your husband.

Sisters, when those times of discord come in your marriage, and they will come from time to time, don't let satan win!  Don't let him whisper lies to you. Take the thoughts from him captive and command that he leave you and your husband alone. You have the power in God to command the enemy leave you alone.

Go to your husband in love, use gentle and kind words. If the lines of communication are not open, try a kind gesture to show your husband how much you love him, then get to talking.

Therefore I, the prisoner in the Lord,

urge you to walk worthy of the calling

you have received, with all humility

and gentleness, with patience, bearing

with one another in love, making every

effort to keep the unity of the Spirit

through the bond of peace.

Ephesians 4:1-3 CSB

Remember, even when you and your husband don't see eye to eye, he is not your enemy, satan is. Let's keep satan out of our marriages and let's keep the lines of communication wide open.

Discussion:
1. We know the verse in John 10:10 that tells us satan comes to kill, steal, and destroy, but have you ever thought that he comes to kill, steal, and destroy your marriage too?
2. It can be hard, but it times of discord with your husband, it's important to remember he isn't your enemy, he's part of you. What practice do you have, or could you have, to remind each other to fight the real enemy?