By: Jenifer Metzger
In 2018 my boat began to rock when my mother-in-law unexpectedly passed away. The violent rocking continued in 2019 when my grandfather passed away. After a year of deep depression and feeling like the rocking boat was about to capsize, I began a journey to healing.
The rocking was still there but was beginning to feel more like a rough sway. Then in 2021 the winds picked up and the rocking became violent once again when one of my best friends lost her battle with cancer and only two weeks later I lost my grandmother.
Loss is inevitable. But how do we rebuild our lives? How do we move on when we can barely even breathe? What do we do when the mountains crumble?
Danita Jenae knows loss. A recent military widow, Danita is learning how to carry both joy and sorry in the same breath as she navigates her breaking heart and new normal. She finds strength even on the days it hurts so bad you just can't get out of bed.
In her book, When Mountains Crumble, Danita says , "Many days, I wake up and just lie flat in bed all day. Those days are grace too. Because when we can't move, God is working a profound healing in our bodies and souls. It's a mending work that takes a careful, slow, and steady stitch. He's putting the left brain back together with the right brain, renewing our mind after trauma and loss split us un two."
Losing my grandfather not only brought deep grief, it also brought guilt. I was the last one to see my grandfather alive, other than my grandmother. He kept telling me he was so, so tired. For the next year I wondered why I didn't do more. Would he still be here if I had? Why did this big strong man leave my world so soon? So many what ifs and whys. Questions that don't get me anywhere.
Danita says, "Surrendering our whys can allow us to find answers to more satisfying questions. Even if we know the answer to our whys, it sadly won't change what happened. But if we start asking what or who or how, these questions seem to get us a lot further down the road to toward healing."
In When Mountains Crumble, Danita will help you:
Grieve in your own way at your own pace
Make peace with the big emotions of sorrow
Process your doubts and questions
Find peace and laughter, even in the heartbreak
The closer the relationship, the greater the grief. Here's a link to my latest post https://yvonnechase.com/carefully-choose/
ReplyDeleteMy email address is cliftonsangels@gmail.com. Thank you
ReplyDeleteI believe grief needs God to help heal us. I still grieve a fiance that passed when I was 15. I am 55. Very sad to have such hurt.
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