Different But In Agreement

By: Jenifer Metzger

I hate the tv. He loves tv.

I love to read. He hates to read.

I love to sit still in nature. He is adhd and cannot sit still.

I love sweets. He loves meat.

My husband and I are so very different. We are night and day really. Sometimes I wish he would hate tv and love to read my {Christian} romance novels with me or that he could sit still and watch nature with me. But that isn't him. It's me. It is okay to be different. Actually it is good to be different.

But when it comes to marriage, there are a few things that we need to be in full agreement on:

• Marriage is for life. Divorce is not an option, therefore the word divorce should never even come up. (This does not apply if you are being abused in any way.  Or if one party has been unfaithful, though God can heal this situation.  If abuse in any way is an issue, please email me at jenifer@w2wministries.org for prayer and help.)
• Honesty is the best policy. You will always be completely honest with your spouse.
• Your marriage is a top priority and you will treat it as such.
• You will respect each other and never put the other down, especially in front of the kids.
• Choose Who you will serve (Joshua 24:15) and make God the center of your home.
• Always calmly discuss big issues, such as: disciple for the kids, finances, where to live and worship, and other large issues.

These are six things that you and your husband need to be in agreement on. If any of these are grey areas for the two of you, first spend some time in prayer that God would guide you, then in love sit down and discuss them with your husband. It is good to be different, but when it comes to these areas, we need to be on the same page.

What are some good differences you and your husband have? What are other are that you think a husband and wife should be in agreement on? Share with us!





A repost from 2011.