Marriage Monday - Love Dare 31

A man shall leave his father and his mother, 

and be joined to his wife; and they shall  become one flesh. 

Genesis 2:24

This verse, the "leaving and cleaving" verse, is God's original blueprint of how marriage is supposed to work.  We are to become one with our mate.  Knit together.  When we marry, we leave our parents.  Of course we still respect and honor them but they {our parents} must now step into a role of counselors to be respected instead of someone who can "tell us what to do."

When we "cleave" to our mate at marriage, we are clinging to them as our rock of refuge and safety.  This person is now going to love you as Christ loved the church and is going to be the spiritual leader of your home.

Last week we talked about unity and today's encouragement is much the same.  When we leave our parents and marry, we are creating that oneness, that unity with our husband.    There is now oneness in decision making, priorities, and goals.  This is how God wants marriage.  With the husband and wife united as one.

It is hard.  It is hard to be united when we are actually two different people with two different ways.  If you had a good father who took good care of your mother and his family, it can be hard to leave and wonder if your husband will take good care of you.  If you had an absent father, it can be hard wondering if your husband will leave.  

Unity in marriage is hard.  But it is God's design.  With Him as the center, we can create that oneness.  Whether you have been married two years, twenty years, or forty years, strive to create unity with your husband.

Today's Dare:
Is there a leaving issue you haven't been brave enough to conquer yet?  Confess it to your spouse today and resolve to make it right.  The oneness of your marriage is dependent upon it.  Follow this with a commitment to your spouse and to God to make your marriage the top priority over every other human relationship.

Sweet Blessings~