Marriage Monday - Love Dare 26

When you judge another, you condemn yourself, since you, the judge, do the same things.  Romans 2:2

Today may be hard for us.  We are going to talk about personal responsibility.  We want other people to take responsibility for their actions and words.  We want others to own up to their mistakes.

But do we?

Often times we make excuses or try to justify what we have done or said.  We want to make it okay instead of just admitting we were wrong.  We think our ways are always right and that we are always doing our best.  We easily lay the blame on our spouse or others instead of on our self, even if we are clearly to blame.

But love doesn't pass the blame so easily or justify selfish motives.  Love is not nearly as concerned with its own performance as with other's needs.  When love takes responsibility for its actions, it's not to prove how noble you've been but rather to admit how much further you have to go.

When you are having a "growing opportunity" with your husband, instead of justifying what you've done or said, really listen to what he is saying.  Is there any truth in it at all?  Can you work and improve in this area?

This doesn't mean you are always wrong and your spouse is always right.  This is not a demand that you become a doormat.  But if there is something that's not right between 
You and God, or you and your spouse, then that should be first priority.

Sisters, what is more important?  Being right or having a right relationship with your husband?

Today's Dare:
Take time to pray through your areas of wrongdoing.  Ask for God's forgiveness, then humble yourself enough to admit them to your spouse.  Do it sincerely and truthfully.  Ask your spouse for forgiveness as well.  No matter how they respond, make sure you cover your responsibility in love. Even if they respond with criticism, accept it by receiving it as counsel.  

Sweet Blessings~