Marriage Monday - Love Dare 18

How blessed is the man who finds 

wisdom and the man who gains understanding. 

Proverbs 1:13

When something is important to us, we try to find out all that we can about it.  I have a passion for photography so I am often times reading how-tos and articles on photography to enhance my knowledge on the subject.  My husband loves sports so his radio is often on sports talk so that he can find out all he can about the sports he likes.

Having a passion for something is great.  But this is where love would ask the question, "How much do you know about your mate?"

Think back to when you and your husband started dating.  Likely you did all you could to find out more about this interesting man.  You asked him questions, went places with him, studied his habits and interests, you learned about this man you loved.

We should never stop learning about our husband.  In the movie Fireproof, they talk about learning your mate as learning in school.  Just because we are married doesn't mean we know all there is to know.  We still need to "graduate" and work on a "doctorate" when it comes to studying our man.

Think of it as a lifelong journey that drams your heart ever closer to your mate.

• Do you know his greatest hopes and dreams?
• Do you fully understand how they prefer to give and receive love?
• Do you know your spouse's greatest fears and why they struggle with them?

Some of the problems you have in relating to your spouse are simply because you don't understand them. Commit to learning about your husband, to really knowing him.  Just like studying for a test, study your mate.

Today's Dare:

Prepare a special dinner at home, just for the two of you.  The dinner can be as nice as you prefer.  Focus this time on getting to know your spouse better, perhaps in areas you've rarely talked about.  Determine to make it an enjoyable evening for you and him.

Sweet Blessings~