When we are asked why we love our husband, often times we hear answers like; he is handsome, works hard, he is strong or funny, and so on. But over the course of the years, what if something were to change? Though we may think it will never change, what if it did? Would you still love him? From the above answers, it would sound as if that is a no.
There was a young and very handsome man who left his home and wife for the the Vietnam war. While away, a grenade blew up in his face. His life was changed, drastically. He was no longer this handsome man, but was now a disfigured man. If the wife's answer to why she married him was his good looks, then after this horrid accident, it would be logical to leave him. Right? We say of course not! That's horrible! Well, this is a true story, and she did not leave him. They are still to this day happily married. Why? Because love is unconditional.The only way love can last a lifetime is if it is unconditional. The truth is this: love is not determined by the one being loved but rather the one choosing to love. Love is a choice. My husband messes up. My husband will fail me at times or not live up to my expectations (we should never place high expectations on our husband, but that is another story...) but I still choose to love him.
If a man says to his wife, "I have fallen out of love with you," he is actually saying, "I never loved you unconditionally to begin with." Unconditional love, agape love, will not be swayed by time or circumstance. If we love our husband because he is funny, then one day he loses that great sense of humor and becomes a grump, do we quit loving him? No. Love is never circumstantial. True love is a choice, not based on looks, character or actions.
Today's Dare:
Do something out of the ordinary for your husband- something that proves to him and you that your love is based on choice and nothing else. Wash his car. Clean the kitchen (if that is his chore). Buy his favorite dessert. Fold the laundry (or do his chore). Demonstrate love to him for the sheer joy of being their partner in marriage.
So sister, what are you going to do for your husband today to show that you choose to love him?
Sweet Blessings~
I was just thinking the same thing last night. Love is a choice. It's not always a feeling. To show my love for him tonight I am going to let him come home and do nothing, just rest. He is always busy at home, always helping. He will probably colapse from shock. :)
ReplyDeleteLove it, Shari! Our men get so used to us giving them "honey dos" that a little shock is good! :)
ReplyDeleteI once heard a very similar story and I'll put the link below (i'm not a spammer i swear, i just love stories like that... of true love even when circumstances changes things suddenly)
ReplyDeleteand thanks for this! i am struggling today... my dear husband is on the mountain top still from a wonderful men's retreat while i was stuck home with sick kids only to come down with it today (boo!)
http://kaiyaslaughterheals.blogspot.com/2009/04/random-love-story.html
Court, I will check that link out. Thanks for sharing. The story I was referring to is from the evangelist Dave Roever. Their story and ministry is incredible.
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